I was fuming. I was driving to get away from my family, yet I missed them.
I wanted to send a message, yet this felt too harsh. I cared, but not enough to turn around. I didn’t know where I was going but I needed to scream and yell for all the times I had held it together.
Like the time I thought my nipple got bitten off. I realize a nine month old babe can not say “No thank you mom, I think I am done with the whole, milk coming out of your boob thing,” but seeing my child turn into a Parana at two in the morning was no what I had expected. I didn’t even scream. I didn’t want to startle my groggy baby or risk waking up the rest of the house. I endured severe nipple pain, just so the rest of you could sleep. How’s that for badass?
Or the time I was called a “fun sponge” because jumping on the sofa while eating handfuls of cookies is frowned upon in our house. Fun? I am fun. I was fun. I knew all the words to every Abba song in college. I would dance all night on a rickety stage, in the backwoods of Vermont with a whiskey sour in each hand, then devour the Trucker Special at the local diner. Damn, they will never see me be that kind of fun. Unless I pull out some of my old tricks at their college graduation. They will rue the day they ever called ME a fun sponge.
I never yelled at anyone for flinging vomit in my eyes or mouth. I try to be understanding about the fact that you don’t like to wake up in the middle of the night and puke all over yourself. Flinging the vomit from your hands all over the room is just another way of saying, “Why me? Why do I have to go through this again. This blows.”
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I didn’t even get cross the next day when I was on the sofa having a puking party myself and you were feeling like a million bucks and decided to finger paint all over the wall. This was mostly because I had no energy to get pissed, but I should still get credit for that one. I did make you clean it up the next day, but it should also be noted that I was very calm about the whole thing.
For all the times I have run myself ragged, taking care of everyone and all their needs, and was still able to get a meal made from scratch on the table deserves a medal. Moms don’t get medals, though. They get, “this was better the last time.” “I wish we could eat at McDonald’s” or “didn’t you add salt to this?” I have felt like flipping the table over numerous times, but I don’t. That would be scary. Also, I really like my dishes and don’t want to see them broken.
After I was done throwing my temper tantrum that night, I drove back home, a better version of myself. My kids and husband greeted me at the door, with looks on their faces that almost brought me to my knees. I felt horrible. They had been worried and scared. Worried, like I was the time I thought I lost a nipple. Scared, like I was the time I knew puke hitting me in the eye would lead to being bent over the throne the next day, while my husband was out of town on a hunting trip and I had three small kids at home.
They still talk about it, “Mom, remember the time you got mad and ran away?” They will always remember. I can’t take it back. They don’t remember all times I held it together. They are not supposed to. They are just kids and I am their mother, and that is what mothers do for their kids. Most of the time.
I will always remember too. I remember it was exactly what I needed in that moment.
I love being a mother. Even during the shit moments. I am thankful and my heart is full. There is nothing on this planet that has shown me who I am, like being a mother has. I wanted this. I will always want this. Even if I am speeding away on a rainy Saturday night, I will always want this.