How To Tell If Your Significant Other Just Isn’t That Into You Anymore

It’s the sad truth, but break-ups happen every day. In fact, it’s somewhat of a rarity for someone to end up marrying — and staying with — their first love, meaning that most people experience some kind of relationship heartache. If you’re really into someone but have a feeling that your relationship is fading, it’s quite possible that they’re just not that into you anymore.

Although the best type of split is mutual, it’s always good to get ahead and make sure you’re not blindsided by a breakup. Of course, actively asking your significant other if the end is near may come off as being a little insecure.

So, that’s why it’s important to figure out the breakup signs. When someone falls out of love or just doesn’t see potential in the pairing anymore, there are ways to tell. You might not be responsible for the split, either. Sometimes, it’s just not a good or healthy match for either of you. It happens to everyone, though. Luckily, the saying is true — there are plenty of fish in the sea.

If you’re having doubts about whether or not your relationship will go the extra mile, here are some of the big signs to clue you in fully.

1. Your Dates Are Always The Same

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You can only go to the same Italian restaurant so many times.

Your significant other probably gave up on spontaneity if when you go out, you only visit the same few places. And if you guys go to a restaurant and your significant other always order the same dish, that’s another sign. It wouldn’t hurt them to try something new. But, they never make the effort. Perhaps they’re saving the fun for their next relationship.

2. They Don’t Make Eye Contact With You

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Have you ever realized how important eye contact is?

In fact, according to Business Insider, eye contact is actually rooted in our DNA. When someone makes eye contact with you, the connection makes you feel heard. If your significant other would rather look at their phone or stare at the TV during conversations, it could be a big sign that they don’t value you the way they used to.

3. They Forget About Big Events

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It’s a stereotype that people often forget about anniversaries, but this is more than that.

If your significant other forgets your birthday or completely blanks on the fact that they were supposed to make an appearance at a big family party, you’re not a priority anymore. Be especially wary if you reminded them multiple times. Even if your partner says they’re sorry, this is a huge sign that they’re not as into you anymore.

4. You Make All The Plans

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Dating someone shouldn’t seem like a full-time job.

Are you the one who’s in charge of maintaining the couple social calendar? It’s an important job, so your significant other should also be pitching in with ideas on where to go and who to see. If it’s something they used to do, but stopped doing, you may need to watch out. They’re obviously not putting much effort into things.

5. They Haven’t Let You Meet Their Family

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And, you’ve been dating for long enough.

If you’ve been dating for six months or more and your significant other is still really hesitant to let you meet their family, it’s possible they know you won’t be around for long. Yes, they can make excuses about how their mom is crazy, or how their dad brings up inappropriate topics. But, if things in the relationship were serious, you’d have to face them eventually.

6. They’re Spending Way More Time With Their Friends

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It’s important to spend time with others, but there should be moderation.

In fact, the Huffington Post believes that time apart is very healthy for relationships. But, there’s an appropriate way to handle quality time. If your significant other constantly ditches you to hang with their buddies or makes their friends a priority every weekend, you may wonder whether or not your partner is up to no good.

7. They Talk Over You

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This is a bad habit that plenty of people have, but it’s harmful in most relationships.

When someone continuously talks over you, they’re telling you that your opinion isn’t valid or important. And that shouldn’t be the case in serious relationships. If this is a new habit your partner picked up, they may be growing tired of the relationship. That could be for the best, however. Do you really want to be in a relationship where your voice and opinions aren’t valued?

8. They Tone Down The PDA

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Even the hand-holding stops.

Overall, does your significant other just seem more physically distant than usual? In the past, could they not keep their hands off of you? If so, your relationship might be cooling down in a major way. It’s not that the honeymoon period is over, either. By stopping even the minor displays of public affection, your partner could be distancing themselves mentally too.

9. They Aren’t Comfortable If You Leave Something At Their House

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When you’ve been together for a bit, it’s normal to have a toothbrush in their bathroom.

But if it seems like, recently, they make sure that toothbrush goes home with you, things might be souring. Your partner could be preparing for the end. That toothbrush, the extra pair of sleep pants, and the cell phone charger are all things they won’t have to toss when they finally initiate a separation.

10. They Don’t Invite You To Events

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Even though your partner is allowed a plus one, you get left at home.

They may say that wedding is no big deal, but the truth is, your significant other might not want the added stress of having you there. Or they might be gearing up to meet someone new at the event. If you attend, you could spoil their chances. It makes sense not to be invited at the beginning of a relationship. But if you’ve been together for a bit, this behavior is just odd.

11. They Suggest An Open Relationship

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Open relationships aren’t for everyone.

If this request seems to have come out of left field, it’s possible your partner is getting bored with your relationship. That, or they may have met someone else. However, just because your partner wants an open relationship doesn’t mean you have to agree to it. “Your relationship should work for you and your partner — and if you’re not able to reach a compromise that suits both of you, it might be time to walk away,” Annie Foskett from Elite Daily writes.

12. They Don’t Notice Significant Appearance Changes

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If you cut six inches off your hair, it’d be nice for your partner to acknowledge it.

Now, you may want to give them a pass if they don’t notice small things like a new shirt. But if you went from brunette hair to blonde, that’s a big deal. Not even acknowledging the change is a little strange. It could suggest that your lover isn’t as invested in you as they once were.

13. You Feel More Like Friends Than Lovers

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Being friends with your boyfriend or girlfriend is great. But, it can change the romantic dynamic.

If you’re no longer romantically involved, and physical touch is limited to high fives, it’s possible that your relationship turned into a friendship. That may seem okay and comfortable for now, especially if you have a low libido. But, when your significant other finds someone else attractive, and you happen to witness it, that platonic situation might really burn.

14. They’re Quick To Start Fights

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You even feel compelled to avoid certain topics that could be problematic.

When you reach this uncomfortable phase, it’s almost like your significant other is waiting for you to do the dirty work. In fact, they could want you to break up with them. And, maybe you should. Relationships are hard, but they’re supposed to be rewarding too. If you can’t even talk to this person without being yelled at, are you even benefitting from the arrangement anymore?

15. They’re Secretive About Big Changes

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Did they randomly buy a house or a car? Did they get a new job, but you’re the last to know?

If so, this is a huge sign that your significant other no longer sees you as a priority. If this behavior is completely new, maybe your partner is trying to unofficially break up with you. They’re phasing you out. Plus, it’s easier than ever to send a quick text with a life update, so there’s really no excuse.

16. You Just Have A Gut Feeling

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Oftentimes, we sense when something’s not right.

If you have a feeling that your significant other just isn’t into you anymore, you may be right. Not only have you gotten to know your partner and their social cues, but your brain and your gut won’t typically lead you astray. Maybe it’s time for a big conversation with them; try to get on the same path. Or, it could be time for both of you to go your separate ways.